Since I don't see anything here like this yet.. I thought I would post this is question out there to the members.. How can a man be good at being single and still be a loveable guy without becoming bitter and withdrawn over time?? The reason I ask this is in today's world, a relationship with a significant other.. Actually caring for another person has vastly fallen to the way side.. Relationship's are things that are thrown away like old shoes.. Me personally, there is someone I really want to be with because they make me feel something that no one else can or could before, I guess that would be called "love" maybe, for the modern day hipsters out there, lol.. The problem is I know I want to be with this person.. Making the honest efforts to build a life for them, and with them... But they will not even hear of it.. Completely freaked out over it, and now are very squirrely when I am around her (seen this more then once, I would say her nerves are shot!!).. I seen her recently, and in my mind I think she is finally "falling apart" it would seem.. She has gained 30 lbs, looks very stressed, tied, etc.. This would be different if I was putting pressure on her, stalking, the long list along that line.. I'm most definitely not ether, because I care about her, I'm trying to make life easier for her.. I can assure u I am quite sane here.. I do not talk to her and have purposely gone out of my way for her, so she wouldn't feel that way.. I won't even be moving to that area so she wont have to see me all the time.. From what I seen the other day.. It's apparent she has emotional problems and I will be steering clear of that now!!! Other people have noticed this too and made comments, so it's not just me.. So what am I left to do?? I love a person that doesn't love me, or even care about me as far as I know.. I know I haven't tried dating again yet.. That is still on my table if I choose.. But I expect it to be a complete waste of time for me.. It may not be that in the end, but I expect nothing for my efforts in love... I'm prepared to have a life on my own permanently, as being single with just hook ups to take care of the "biological urges" until I'm too old for fun.. I get checked out enough when I'm out, for that not to be a problem... So.. How does one live a successful, fulfilling life by themselves... Traveling for Vaca's, going out to restaurants, going to event's etc. and not feel like a complete tool???