"“I’m sorry I was late to work, I’ve been having these terrible headaches. I should have told you about the awful pain I’ve been experiencing. I was looking for aspirin or anything really…but you’re right, I should have taken the time to phone during my migraine.” Ugh. Do not apologize for expecting someone to be responsible for their own actions. Do not allow them to manipulate your emotions like that. In the situation above, you can be sorry that they are having headaches, but remind them they still need to be on time. You can be firm without being confrontational." Wow, yes, came across shit like that way too many times. You bring someone up on their shitty behaviour and it gets reversed around and you are the worst person in the world because you didn't take into account x, y, or z going on in their life. Interesting article, some other good points in it. The point on guilt-leveraging is crazy, start higher with something you know the person will not do and guilt them into doing something that you had planned for them to do all along... that one is fecked up, seen it happening a lot throughout my years. A lot in the article is very vague though and there is a lot of overlap with just shitty people rather than emotional manipulators. I think a lot of the stuff said in this thread is a lot more accurate and detailed about manipulation than this article. A lot of the points were like emm, okay, maybe, a little bit of manipulation there, but it is just a cruddy person instead really.