Very often this becomes a problem for gentlemen, and it has become a faux pas in popular culture, where it is disclosed to you that your partner's ex has a larger penis than you. How can we deal with it, what are some possible reasons that it was said by your partner, and why is it eating you up/annoying you. It is a fairly complex issue, but no matter what the reason or cause behind it, it may be a hurtful thing for one person to hear but may be insignificant to another. I will divide this section into a number of categories and hopefully we can expand on this initial post with feedback from members and staff alike. How Do you Know: - Your partner said it - Her Ex said it - Your partner's friends said it - Your friends said it - Word-of-mouth - You can see the thing walking two feet in front of him! Situation Where it Was Said: - At a party/event/social gathering - Individually, just you and your partner - Individually, just you and your friend/her friend - You overheard it/it was not meant for your ears - Everyone is saying it, the thing is the talk-of-the-town! Why It Was Said: - To provoke a reaction - Out of anger/fighting - To embarrass you/hurt your feelings/to undermine you - Gossip and/or drunkenness (just stupid chit-chat, girls at a party etc) - You asked (your own fault buddy!) - You were both talking about exes (either positively or negatively) and it came up - Joking (either it is true or not, your partner may just have a warped sense of humour) The Feelings/Effects it Caused: - You were visibly upset, embarrassed, angry about it - You laughed it off and it didn't bother you - Your partner was checking to see how you would react and was happy or dissatisfied with the response - You taunted your partner about something in return - You ignored it/pretend you didn't hear it, and moved on - You asked your partner why did she say that/did size matter to her Outcome: Very often there will be overlap between the sections; for example, you may have been both upset and angry about this information and then mocked your partner, but also asked her why she said this to you in the first place. It is important to identify the above sections in order to identify the possible reason behind the situation and what possible options/alternatives there are to deal with it. The reasons why a bigger ex is mentioned can range for a number of different reasons, but it may often indicate a "red-light" in the relationship that all is not well. Partners can often do this to try to weaken, control, manipulate, and undermine their partners. So identifying why it was said, how it made you feel, and what happened as a result may be a good indication as to the reasons behind it.