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The Larger Ex

Discussion in 'Dating, Friendships, and Relationships' started by Mebs, Dec 30, 2015.

  1. Mebs

    Mebs Active Member

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    Very often this becomes a problem for gentlemen, and it has become a faux pas in popular culture, where it is disclosed to you that your partner's ex has a larger penis than you. How can we deal with it, what are some possible reasons that it was said by your partner, and why is it eating you up/annoying you. It is a fairly complex issue, but no matter what the reason or cause behind it, it may be a hurtful thing for one person to hear but may be insignificant to another. I will divide this section into a number of categories and hopefully we can expand on this initial post with feedback from members and staff alike.

    How Do you Know:
    - Your partner said it
    - Her Ex said it
    - Your partner's friends said it
    - Your friends said it
    - Word-of-mouth
    - You can see the thing walking two feet in front of him!

    Situation Where it Was Said:

    - At a party/event/social gathering
    - Individually, just you and your partner
    - Individually, just you and your friend/her friend
    - You overheard it/it was not meant for your ears
    - Everyone is saying it, the thing is the talk-of-the-town!

    Why It Was Said:
    - To provoke a reaction
    - Out of anger/fighting
    - To embarrass you/hurt your feelings/to undermine you
    - Gossip and/or drunkenness (just stupid chit-chat, girls at a party etc)
    - You asked (your own fault buddy!)
    - You were both talking about exes (either positively or negatively) and it came up
    - Joking (either it is true or not, your partner may just have a warped sense of humour)

    The Feelings/Effects it Caused:
    - You were visibly upset, embarrassed, angry about it
    - You laughed it off and it didn't bother you
    - Your partner was checking to see how you would react and was happy or dissatisfied with the response
    - You taunted your partner about something in return
    - You ignored it/pretend you didn't hear it, and moved on
    - You asked your partner why did she say that/did size matter to her

    Outcome:
    Very often there will be overlap between the sections; for example, you may have been both upset and angry about this information and then mocked your partner, but also asked her why she said this to you in the first place. It is important to identify the above sections in order to identify the possible reason behind the situation and what possible options/alternatives there are to deal with it. The reasons why a bigger ex is mentioned can range for a number of different reasons, but it may often indicate a "red-light" in the relationship that all is not well. Partners can often do this to try to weaken, control, manipulate, and undermine their partners. So identifying why it was said, how it made you feel, and what happened as a result may be a good indication as to the reasons behind it.
     
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  2. lilbigman

    lilbigman Well-Known Member

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    I have to comment on this one. This is exactly what filled my head with doubt and insecurities that I had never had for 38 years of my life and drove me to the fine art of penis enlargement. :sneaky: This woman (new girlfriend) claimed that I was one of the smallest she had been with. Her ex's were 8, 9, 11" and here I am feeling like i was hung like a 10 year old compared to them. This bothered me and filled my head with doubt for a long time. After I gained a little over 1/2" I was suddenly close to the size of her 9" ex! Well, I am nowhere near 9", so how is this possible? Because women talk shit and don't know shit when it comes to penis size. It reminds me of a time when I told my mom to move a picture over 3" and she moved it like 7". I'm like "mom, I said 3". She said " Well, us women are bad with measurements. When you have been told this much (and she held her fingers apart about 4") is 6" all your life, you get confused!" Hehehehe, yep mom's a hoot. Point being women are notoriously bad at estimating size.

    This bigger ex talk is also a common head game women play. They use it to knock you down a notch and take away power. Especially if your confident in yourself or are bigger than average and they know it, they will use this to keep you in check and make it seem like your not all that special. Why this is, I cannot say. I have stopped trying to figure out women long ago. Every time I think I have them figured out, they throw me through a loop and I'm stumped again. All women are nuts if you ask me! Well, except those that belong to this forum and any who read this post that is. :D

    Point being, don't let this common game women play mess with your head. Those huge ex's are more than likely myth, but even if they are real, she is with you not them. There is a reason why she chose you. And I would be willing to bet it's not because of penis size. In all honesty, that's probably the last thing they care about.
     
  3. FossilHead

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    You put some time into this thread, Mebs! :thumbsup: (y)


    I was 1 girl past being a virgin, and had gotten into an intense relationship with this other girl. We were both young (I was 17), but she was more, shall we say, “worldly” than I.
    My insecurities regarding this got the better of me one day, and I began questioning her about former partners, and specifically ended up asking whether she had ever had a “large” former lover.
    After several minutes of pestering, she finally acquiesced and answered my question.
    Yes, there was.


    Turns out it was a guy a couple years older than me, and someone I already despised.


    Insecurities amplified!


    But totally my own fault for asking.




    Oh, I pretended it didn’t matter, and I certainly never brought it up again, but that little seed had been planted (pun intended).




    The outcome?


    That was a long time ago, but I don’t think that the feeling of insecurity that it engendered in me ever left!
    Well, it is gone, now, after experiencing the positive effects of PE, and learning that I actually was slightly above-average before I even began doing PE.


    BUT, I basically dealt with this---- and never knew better---- for about 25 years!
     
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  4. Corvid

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    A girl once told me that a man she slept with was bigger than me, but I immediately saw it for what it was. We lived in the same place and occasionally had casual intercourse, then I told her, more or less, that I wasn't much interested. Well, she brought some other guy back, he was this guy from up town who hung around women in bars, and when they got overly drunk he'd swan around them being overly nice. He'd linger by the taxi door hoping to hop in, so to speak. So she brought this guy back and had sex with him, noisily, in the next room to mine and then told me the next day that he was bigger than me. I didn't care. He was a fool and she was playing a weak game.
    There was a Bukowski quote about women being unable to resist playing two guys off against one another.
    Separate to this I've heard, that some women have, how should we say, a bit of a wizard's sleeve going on? That can be naturally occurring or from a bit too much mileage. In those cases, women usually deny that the orifice is large, and instead decry the member as small. :meh:
    Some people say that women like that are best avoided, as in, if she's got a lot of miles on the cock, sorry I mean clock, or if she's genuinely had massive exes.. well imagine the elastic on your waistband if someone like Mike Tyson borrowed your pants...
     
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  5. Mebs

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    Bahahaha, a wizard's sleeve! That is a new one to me, but I will definitely use it again :laugh:
     
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    Yeah, it is something that gets mentioned quite a lot around the place and is often used as a weapon in popular culture too, so I thought I would document some of the possibilities and parameters involved in the whole topic.
     
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    That shit needs to be in a book, Cor !
    I was rotfl at the humour, while nodding my head in agreement with the wisdom
     
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    Haha, truth is stranger than fiction Mr. Fossilhead. :=D:
     
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    I gotta say the wizards sleeve is a new one on me. Funny though!
     
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